What Can You Do To Keep Your Online Love Alive?
1.) Create virtual treats for each other. Make a web page devoted to your loved one, with "I Love U's" , roses and other romantic things.
2.) Share your "when we see each other" fantasies.
3.) If moving in together is in your future, look for items to furnish your new place.
4.) Send loving messages or cards to each other.
5.) Create an intimate setting at your place, and have your partner do the same and talk to each other on the phone or computer.
6.) Talk about how your day went or about how you feel about each other.
7.) Flirt! Flirt! Flirt! With each other of course! It keeps the romance flowing, trust me.
8.) Try having an intimate cyber session with your partner. Even if you don't get to "go all the way" It will set a romantic playful mood in the coming days for you both.
9.) Always make time for your love. As each situation varies, it is really important to make your love feel like they are number one in your universe.. even if your over 3,000 miles away.
10.) Make them feel special. With a barrier of distance it is very easy to miss a moment when your love was not having a great day or make need some extra attention. To combat that always pay attention to their moods, their tone of voice and go the extra mile to make them feel special regardless of the present situation. Some great ways to do this is to send an e-mail or virtual card every day, and tell them as often you as you can remember just how much they mean to you!
11.)Keep in constant communication. Without communication you don't have a relationship. And, the more communication you have the more your love for each other will grow. Take some time out at least every other day to sit down and talk, undisturbed, for about an hour or so... just the both of you. It will do wonders for your relationship.
12.) Surprise your love often. As you can not physically be there to let them know your thinking about them.. surprise them with the unexpected often. This will let your love know that you are really thinking about them and also invite them to be the same way back to you!
13.) Plan out your meeting and/or future. This is a great way to grow closer together and to plan how you are going to make your move into a "real" world relationship. Plus, it's loads of fun!
14.) Trust your partner. For your relationship to work you need to trust your partner in what they do. Until you meet (or live together) you will each have your own separate lives to attend to in the "real" world. Let your partner do this without hesitation.
15.) Make your computer wallpaper a picture of your love.
16.) Don't lie, even if it's tempting.
17.) Never hold back your feelings.
18.) Do the unexpected.
19.) Tell your love your secrets... often.
20.) Respect yourself and your love.
As each person is different, so is each relationship. Take the time to really know what your love wants and desires and exactly what they expect in your particular relationship. You never know what their definition of an on-line romance is. You will run into people who think it is a game... but then there is the ultimate reward of finding your soulmate that makes every other relationship pale in comparison. For this, keep your chins up and know it will work out as long as you keep true to yourself and your love!
Surviving The Wait
Anyone in an online relationship will tell you the same thing; the worst thing to handle is the distance and the waiting. The thoughts going through your head are enough to drive anyone crazy. A person in an online relationship can be worrying about anything and everything from looking okay to adjusting to a new city or country. So, how do you handle the little nagging thoughts in your head or the loneliness you feel at night?
1. Get In Touch With Their Life
Take the time to get in touch with whom your online love really is. Learning about their home and their history is a great way to accomplish this. Take turns revealing something about your past or somewhere you like to go. Use local city guides to find pictures of your favorite places to go and show them to your online love.
2. A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words
Surrounding yourself, and your partner's living space with pictures of each other is a great way to feel each other's presence. Don't just give each other the one or two token pictures. It isn't enough to give each other a good reality of who the other person is. Constantly take pictures of yourselves in different settings. Every time you meet, take pictures of you both together. You'll want to videotape yourself as well. It is a great way for your partner to see the live you whenever they want.
3. Ritual Of Love
Find out some of the things that your partner does everyday, and then mimic them in your own way. Have you ever heard the saying "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?" In relationships this is a special bond that happens when you just want to be closer. For instance; My husband listens to music that I don't normally listen to. But everyday I set aside time just to listen to the types of music he would. I'm even starting to like it ;)
4. Special delivery
Send something that has significant meaning to you, to the one you love. It will make them feel special, knowing that you trust them with that special something you hold close to your heart.
Jealousy And Your Online Love
Online relationships are the ultimate test in faith and trust in a person. For this reason alone, jealousy is often something online couples have to deal with at one point or another. Before you go getting jealous, Remember that its a turn off in most online relationships. If you feel jealous, you should find something else to do. I've witnessed people sitting at their chat clients waiting till their partners name goes idle...Like you have got to be kidding me...Just because they want to make sure that he/she isn't still talking to someone else. If you have time to sit and check up on everything your partner is doing online you need more to do.
Try doing these things:
1.)Find a new interest, develop a new hobby or finish some uncompleted projects. When your mind is idle it needs things to keep it entertained. Don't let stories or gossip about your partner be your source of entertainment.
2.) Jealousy is often present when we feel bad or self-conscious about ourselves. Do something to make you feel better about who you are. Get a new hairstyle, buy new clothes, or learn a new skill. Don't let your insecurities get in the way of a good relationship.
3.) Talk to each other! If you don't know what's going on in your partner's life, or vice versa it is easy to let your mind wander. Make sure you talk to each other about your dreams, what's going on in your life and things you want to do as a couple. The more you feel you know your partner, the less likely you will be to feel jealous.
Share intimate things with one another often. It makes the relationship feel trusting, as if you can tell each other anything. The relationship becomes more healthy and secure.
Love Your Computer!
Love your computer, because it is in fact the way you and your partner keep in touch!
1.) Don't eat or drink on it...geez! lol 8 out of ten computer accidents happen when your eating! If its chow time, leave your computer area and go eat.
2.) Make sure you have good virus protection, nothing will upset you more then getting a virus and putting your computer out of commission for weeks. (this can end online relationships, because you have to be online in order to keep it alive.)
3.) Clean up your computer files. A slow pc is never good in my opinion. In your start menu you'll find my computer, right click it and find disk defragmenter. You want to do this at least once a week or month. Compress old files as needed.
Clean up your browser once a week, you'd usually find this in tools in your browser. It clears out cookies, cache, history etc. If you can't do these things yourself then take your computer to get checkups lol.
